No Bubble Wrap Here

Watching your kids in pain sucks. Whether it’s emotional or physical, it is hard to watch. This past Monday was a day I was mildly dreading for weeks. Twinkle was scheduled to have a minor issue taken care of at the Doctor. A small in-office procedure. Some BIG anxiety. Some hand holding.

It would hurt. There would be some aftercare. The afternoon would take a turn.  Comfort food and awful Disney shows would rule the rest of the day.

Weeks before when the appointment was booked I struggled with how much to reveal. Do I warn her of the certain pain? When do I bring it up? How honest did I want to be?

After talking with a couple of friends in the same boat years ago and getting all the skinny, I was a little more concerned about how Twinkle would handle it.

A homemade card Twinkle received from a friend

A homemade card Twinkle received from a friend

I found myself trying to temper my honesty with some good old-fashioned Pollyanna attitude. Could she see right through it? Was I just making it worse? After all, my daughter gets worked up about stuff. The apple does not fall far from this tree.  The stewing, the worst-case scenarios, the anticipation. Yep, PhD here.

However, it dawned on me…the last few years have produced a few things on my anxiety and worry hit list. I have also had the good fortune to be an observer of some amazing people in my life handle some of their own setbacks, adversity and heartbreak.

It’s a classic “if I had known then what I know now” life would be so much easier. This was the day some of that tried and true Mom wisdom just tumbled out of me.  It really felt like I turned a corner as a Mom too.

Sheltering my not-so-little girl from pain has been my “MO” for her entire life. That is my job, right? Well, as it finally had to hit me someday, it’s not anymore.

Ice likes to make fun of me and say “Bubble wrap…” That’s all he says. And I know he means I have two choices. I can wrap my kids in it. Or let them live – warts and all. Usually I just ignore him and move on with my coddling and helicoptering.

But today the shield came down. It suddenly became this experience that I wanted to impart how much stronger she would be on the other side. How so much of what happens in life comes down to a healthy dose of perspective.  The reality is there are a lot worse predicaments you could be in than this. Blah blah blah. Am I an after-school special now?

It may have fallen on deaf ears for the most part. But wouldn’t it be great it if didn’t?

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7 thoughts on “No Bubble Wrap Here

  1. Great perspective Jen! In all my years of Peds nursing I found that the little ones that did the best were those whose parents adopted a “matter of fact” attitude. ” it is what it is, and we’ll get through this together”. If a child knows they are loved and you will be there to comfort them they do just fine. Not that they won’t cry or be scared, but that subsides pretty quickly. I’m a firm believer in honesty with children in a way that is appropriate for their age. In a sort of “just enough information not too far ahead of the day” kind of approach. Kids are so very smart these days , and they figure things out pretty darn fast. It’s important for them to know they can always trust you. It can actually be pretty empowering for the little ones and they are so proud of themselves😘

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  2. Heather says:

    Yeah for you! I never have liked bubble wrap and rarely use it. My thinking is that I will show my kids what is out there at age appropriate times so they can make choices. We all have choices. How we handle what comes our way is a choice. And if the time comes when they might need a good therapist for the things I have done with them, they will at least be able to pick a really good therapist!J ;0)) God speed in mothering, my friend!

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