In our kitchen we have a message board to celebrate guests, holidays, seasons, accomplishments and the like. Whatever message just needs to be conveyed that day.
So when I finally got around to erasing the “Happy New Year” greeting from December 31st and asked Twinkle Toes to come up with a new message, this is what she wrote:
In case the orange word is unreadable it says “table.”
Last week we made several trips to the dentist. Does the tooth fairy have anything to do with the teeth we’re given? I don’t know. But if she does she is on my s*%t list. Despite their best efforts it’s almost embarrassing the number of cavities Techno and Twinkle Toes have between the two of them. (I don’t even want to see it printed here.) You’d think we have something against oral hygiene around here or that my kids bathe in Coca-Cola or something. But even the hygienist at the office has said some kids just have those kind of teeth. Okay whatever.
Twinkle was having tooth pain last week. And after much crying and – forgive the awful pun – gnashing of teeth she decided she’d rather have it pulled. By the end of the week the dentist agreed. After being in so much pain, missing some school and near begging to have it removed she was so happy when it was all over. Then the fun part – a visit to the treasure chest to pick out some awful 5-cent-valued plastic tchotchke as a reward.
This is where I am blown away. She came up to the counter with a bouncy ball. She asked me what I thought of it. I know she doesn’t collect these…her brother does.
It got me thinking about how my two oldest children show each other love in different ways. It’s rare! But it’s wonderful to see.
When Twinkle was just days old and had jaundice we had a visiting nurse that came to take her blood regularly. The first time the nurse performed this squeamish task my 22-month old little prince got between Twinkle and the needle-wielding woman and batted the nurse away. We witnessed his unbelievable desire to protect his baby sister before he could even verbalize it and the story has become a part of our family folklore and been re-told many times.
Then one day we were in the parking lot of a store and Twinkle took off without the obligatory look both ways and Techno held out his arm just in the nick of time to stop her.
Twinkle is the first one to make a gift for her older brother when the holidays roll around or he is celebrating another birthday. She has written many letters and made the most heartfelt cards over the years.
So why it is that when the bedroom doors open in the morning or they come bounding in after school at the end of the day that these lovely gestures are long-forgotten and the gloves come off?
I guess it’s no different from us adults. Sometimes we save our worst behavior for those closest to us. Next time Ice and I are having a tiff I wonder how far a blue plastic bouncy ball will get me?